This is great wisdom from the great Jedi. I love Star Wars and we were pondering this little gem at a Missions Team meeting the other day and how true it CAN be. Note it does not HAVE to be this way.
I’ve actually seen this happen and not just with people living overseas, but it does happen a great deal from people living overseas probably die to all the extra stresses that come with living overseas.
Fear. You are afraid of moving, trying different foods, speaking a different language. It is probably worth saying that not all fear is bad. Fear of riding in a taxi in Tunisia with no seatbelts, going to fast, weaving in and out of traffic. I’ve never prayed so hard in all my life!
Fear leads to anger. Because you are afraid of doing new things you get angry. Angry at the person who ‘made’ you move, angry at the organisation for not preparing you well enough, angry that ‘things’ are not as you expected them to be.
Anger leads to hate. All those negative emotions quickly turn to hate. Hating all those things I mentioned above or maybe hating your spouse/friend for doing better at adjusting. Maybe even hating yourself for not adjusting as well as you want. (This last one seems to be very common.)
Hate leads to suffering. Wow, Yoda had is so right. We have clinics and hospitals filled with people who are suffering. We are giving people meds in the hope it ‘sorts them out”. We are suffering. We are a broken people.
BUT do you want the good news. It does not have to be this way. Stop and breathe (remember that post?!), stop and pray, stop and talk to someone, stop and choose happiness. If you are a Christian remember God’s redeaming power, love and grace.
With technology the way it is your support system does not have to be limited to those in you host culture. Call family and friends who can love on you. Call professionals who can help.
Let me give you an examples. I recently heard about a couple who were in counselling via SKYPE! How cool is that?! Their support system went across time zones and countries. Use all this technology to your advantage!
Thank you, Yoda, for reminding me “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.“